How to be more disciplined to achieve your goals: real-life entrepreneurial tips

Uncategorized May 28, 2019

People seem to think I am disciplined, but I never considered myself the same.

I was not so punctual during my student life and always leaving my exams to the last minute while I was in NUS as I had to fly from Macau to take them.

Even in my Secondary School, JC, I was the one who didn’t go to class or who didn’t study for exams until the very last-minute study.

However, I was becoming good at Poker and had started making good amount of money. People considered me as very disciplined for having so much time for studying Poker, working out, playing Poker and reading books. They started asking questions on how I found disciple to do all these personal development things.

I want to share three reasons why you have no discipline or why people don’t think you have discipline.

 

The first reason is Reliance on Willpower. People think of difficult things when they think of discipline.

For Example, going on a diet makes it very difficult not to eat any extra food and reliance on willpower not to eat the extra piece. As for me if I set a goal of not to consume sugar, I am going to throw all sugar stuff from my house. I don’t need to rely on my willpower as I don’t have it in my house.

You cannot only rely on willpower solely for discipline, especially in the long term. It's easy to fall, and there's a trap there, and it's going to happen.

The second reason is you are too Perfectionistic. People feel they have discipline is because they tell themselves that they will be disciplined in the coming month.  

So, when any bad thing or a bad day happens after they start the plan, it doesn’t go perfectly and will feel like they have cheated once and then take on the identity of somebody who isn’t capable of doing anything. They are just too hard on themselves.

As for me, if I fail, I start it the next week and start from scratch.

It's not that hard for me to just like, let it go, that I failed once, and that made it seem like I have discipline.

I still cheat sometimes and eat ice cream or cake as I can’t resist, but it’s okay.

And the third reason is your life lacks purpose.

It is essential to know the reason for what are you doing in your life.

So, when you don't have the reasons why you lack that purpose, it's tough for you to be disciplined over the long term, say like, be productive every day, or to read a book all the time.

It’s easy for me because I like to read books, to grow, and the more I grow, the more I can serve others.

For me, my mission is to make money, take care of my family, serve as many people as I can and create values for them.

When I have strong reasons, it is easy for me to take disciplinary actions. When things are tough like I get tired and don’t want to make this video, I will do it because of my discipline and my purpose of life.

So I hope these three reasons could help you to get disciplined in your life.

 

Hi! So, this is Wayne Yap, and people seem to say that I'm disciplined. I don't get it. Like I can tell you a story that will describe how I never actually considered myself disciplined at all.

So, I was the kind of student in school that doesn't go to classes.

I was in NUS, and my exams were coming. I would be like,” Oh! I'm in Macau. I guess I have to fly back and take my exams. I haven't studied anything; I haven't gone to classes. I don't know how I'm going to pass the exam.” And I always left it to the last minute.

When I was in school, when I was in Secondary School, JC, it was always the same. I was still the one who didn't go to class. I was always the one who didn't study for exams. And I was always the one who did very, very, last minute study.

And as I was becoming good at Poker and I started making a lot of money, people started telling me "Hey Wayne, how are you so disciplined, like you can spend so much time studying Poker, you can spend so much time working out, you can spend so much time playing Poker, you can spend so much time reading books. Like you do all this kind of personal development things, how do you find the discipline to do all of this kind of things?”

And in this video, I want to share with you the three reasons why you have no discipline or why people don't think you have discipline. Because I, I don't think that I'm disciplined, but other people seem to think I have discipline. So, disciplined life without even really being disciplined.

So, I want to share with you the three reasons why you are not disciplined. The first reason is that you are relying on willpower. When people think of discipline, they think of difficult things.

So, for example, when you go on a diet, it's very difficult to not eat the extra piece of ice cream or an extra piece of cake or whatever. It’s not that easy, and the reason is that you're relying on willpower not to eat this cake and the way I do it is that if I set a goal for myself to not eat sugar, to not consume sugar, I'm going to throw away all sugar stuff from my house. I'm not going to have ice cream, I'm not going to have cake, I'm not going to have anything related to sugar, and that way when I don't have the sugar at home, right? Even if I'm feeling really bad about myself at that time, it's very hard for me to go ahead and eat that piece of chocolate because it's not in my house; therefore I don't need to rely on willpower.

When it's just lying there, it's really difficult to be disciplined. So, if you are somebody that relies on willpower solely for discipline, it's not going to work out in the long term. It's very easy to fall, and there's a trap there, and it's going to happen.

So, the reason number 2 of why you have no discipline is that you are all or nothing, so you are too perfectionistic. The reason why a lot of people feel if they have discipline is that they tell themselves, "Hey, I'm going to be disciplined this coming month. In the morning, I'm going to exercise; I'm going to meditate. I'm going to eat healthy throughout the day. I'm going to have a salad for lunch. I'm going to have chicken breast for dinner."

And they have this all-In kind of plan, where it’s like "I'm going to do all this, at the same time, and I'm going to start on that plan."

So, what happens is that they start on that plan and then sometimes, like, a bad thing happens, a bad day happens? People don't. The plan doesn't go perfectly, and, a perfectionist would see it like, "Hey I already cheated once, I didn't go to the gym today, um, this is not my thing, I'm just not disciplined, I just cannot be somebody who goes to the gym fives time a week or seven times a week." And they take on the identity of somebody who isn't able to do it. Then they are just too hard on themselves, or you are too hard on yourself, and you tell yourself that "I just can't do it" because you failed once.

Like, me, if I fail once so be it. It's okay. I this went well in the perfect week, next week I'll do better. I'll start the diet again next week. I'll start the exercise, exercise again next week.

And every time you reach that, like, you cumulatively, you got to get so much more gym time in, you're going to get so much more healthy food in your body, when you don't get too hard on yourself.

It's not that hard for me to just like, let it go, that I failed once, and that made it seem like I have discipline.

I still cheat, like if I want to be healthy.

Sometimes I still eat the ice cream, or eat the cake,

I cannot resist it, and it's okay.

And the third reason is your life lacks purpose.

So, if you don't know what you're doing in life, how are you going to get out of bed, how are you going to have the discipline to get out of bed, how are you going to have the discipline to take care of your body, and go and exercise, or eat healthy?

It's very difficult to get out of bed when you have no story about how your life is going to go already. So, when you wake up in bed right, and you do the same things you do, you read your phone, you look at your phone, you look at social media, maybe you start your day when you open your email, and you start doing some work.

It's all very repetitive tasks, and it gets a bit boring you're just kind of like auto-piloting, and you're just being a zombie, going through life.

When that happens right, it's very hard for you to have the purpose and the reasons why you are doing things.

So, when you don't have the reasons why you lack that purpose, it's very hard for you to be disciplined over the long term, it's very hard for you to be, say like, be productive every day, or to read a book all the time.

It's easy for me because I know I want to read and I want to read because I like to grow. I like growing, and the more I grow, the more I can serve others. The more I can help others.

So, when I make the mission more about others than about simply me, so like, I want to make money, I want to be rich; I also want to take care of my family, I also want to serve as many people as I can, and make a big impact in the world. I want to create value for others.

And when I have these strong reasons, why it's a lot easier for me to start a disciplined action, and that disciplined action, that's only when things are tough. Like, you know when you are already really tired, and you need to make that phone call, or you're really tired like I'm having a sore throat now, and I need to make this video. I have the discipline to do this because I have the purpose.

So, I hope you like these three reasons why you have no discipline and why I have it. I don't want to sound condescending but, yeah, I'm sharing this with you because I hope that you can you join and be somebody that is disciplined as well.

So, I look forward to seeing you next time.

Bye.

 

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